What to wear to every type of wedding: Dresses for destination weddings, dresses for fall and winter weddings, spring and summer weddings, and more

With wedding dress attire themes getting more and more creative, and each wedding becoming more and more unique, finding the perfect dress for every type of wedding is anything but easy! Especially this year, as most of 2020’s weddings got postponed to 2021, you likely have a ton of different weddings, each with different dress codes, from black-tie, to semi-formal, to ‘country chic’ and ‘tropical elegant’ and destination weddings, so where do you even begin when it comes to how to dress for a destination wedding, a city wedding, a beach wedding, or a country club formal wedding? Here are my favorite picks of dresses and jumpsuits for every type of wedding imaginable. 

Important things to note: Unless requested, proper wedding etiquette is it’s still never, ever okay to wear white to a wedding! I’d also steer away from white for a bridal shower, or a bachelorette party, or an engagement party. Anytime it’s a wedding-related event, the bride will most likely be wearing white, and it’s best and most polite to reserve the color for her. 

It’s always better to overdress than underdress. Long dresses are VERY in for weddings, and you’re unlikely to see people in mini dresses at a wedding (if it’s a more casual affair, I’d opt for a midi or a flowy maxi, instead).

What to wear to a destination wedding

Wondering what to wear for a destination wedding? Whether you’re attending a wedding in Mexico, the Bahamas, Hawaii or Bali, these are the best destination wedding guest dresses for warm weather and fun, tropical elegance. Your date should opt for a blazer, but depending on the wedding may be able to go without a tie. If so, I’m a big fan of the classy hawaiian shirt and blazer look, which is what most of the guys wore at our destination wedding in Maui this year.

LIKELY Katerina Dress in Olive Oil & Pink

only $80!

CAMI NYC Milan Dress in Tropics

SAYLOR Gardenia Dress in Seafoam

ELLIATT Reception Dress in Fuchsia

Jennifer Behr Juliette Earring in CrystalJennifer Behr Juliette Earring in Crystal

Norma Kamali Halter Turtle Gown in Rose

ELLIATT Byron Dress in Multi

Norma Kamali X REVOLVE Diana Gown in Orchid Pink

French Countryside Lavender High-Low Dress

Halter Turtleneck Side Slit Gown

For tropical affairs…

ROCOCO SAND Emi Pleat Dress in Multi

Cherry Celestia Dress

I see this yellow dress looking fuego at a Mexico wedding in Cabo or Tulum, or somewhere else South of the Border like Colombia

House of Harlow 1960 x REVOLVE Rosaline Dress in Yellow

ROCOCO SAND Aita Dress in Black

Karina Grimaldi Pauline Dot Dress in Blush


Katie May X REVOLVE Bambina Dress in Sky Amanda Uprichard Janet Dress in Sunset

Iconic Moment Red Bodycon Midi Dress Only $48!

What to wear to a black tie wedding

A black tie wedding is FORMAL! Your date will need to wear a tuxedo, and you should opt for a formal, upscale, long and luxe gown. 

Here are the best wedding guest dresses for a black-tie wedding 

ELLIATT Rachel Dress in Cobalt

BCBGMAXAZRIA Pleat Halter Gown in Cassis Blue Nookie Aria One Shoulder Gown in Neon Pink

BEC&BRIDGE Salton Sea Midi Dress in Sky Blue Katie May X REVOLVE Edgy Dress in Cherry

  Norma Kamali Strapless Fishtail Dress in Black

Susana Monaco Strapless Hi Low Dress in Perfect Red

  Michael Costello x REVOLVE Generosity Dress in Seafoam I wore this dress to a black-tie wedding in Paris and it was such a hit! it’s been sold out forever but is finally back!

SAU LEE Genevie Satin Gown in Black 

Katie May Secret Agent Dress in BlackKatie May Secret Agent Dress in Black

I love pairing black tie dresses with a statement earring like these:

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Lovers + Friends Urgonia Gown in Pink Tonal NBD Asher Midi Dress in Fuchsia

Katie May Surreal Gown in Black


What to wear to a black tie optional wedding

Wondering what to wear to a black-tie optional wedding? These elegant semi-formal dresses are a great option for black tie optional weddings. While you might be inclined to wear black, you can go brighter or bolder in the summer, and amp up your look with bold jewels and heels!

ELLIATT Cassini Dress in Blue

     Nookie Divine Midi Dress in Dusty Pink

Amanda Uprichard X REVOLVE Riesling Dress in Pacific

ELLIATT X REVOLVE Pippa Dress in Nude



(only $86!)


HEMANT AND NANDITA Veena Dress in Nude

Katie May Leo Gown in BlackBCBGMAXAZRIA Eve One Shoulder Dress in Black


What to wear to a fall wedding or winter wedding

Norma Kamali Diana Gown in Bronze

Moments Of Bliss Forest Green Backless Mermaid Maxi DressTricks of the Trade Forest Green Maxi Dress

Lovers + Friends Milwood Midi Dress in Emerald Green

Susana Monaco Strapless Hi Low Dress in Perfect Red


As far as wedding guest dresses under $100 go, this jumpsuit is gorgeous, perfect for a Friday night before the wedding too! 



Can you tell I’m obsessed with this color for Fall/Winter wedding guest dresses!?

Norma Kamali Off the Shoulder Fishtail Gown in Black

Norma Kamali Diana Gown in Plum

Harmonious Love Forest Green Off-the-Shoulder Maxi Dress Under $100 on lulus!Only in Dreams Navy Blue Floral Print Maxi Dress

Heavenly Hues Magenta Maxi Dress Under $100 on Lulus!

What to wear to a beach-chic, or summer casual wedding

Adorable casual but still elegant looks for attending a summer wedding

Amanda Uprichard Janet Dress in Sunset

MISA Los Angeles X REVOLVE Micaela Dress in Orchid

Ariella Printed Dress

What to wear to a vineyard wedding

Depending on the dress code, these are some of my favorite dresses for a wedding in Napa or wine country


Nookie Lust One Shoulder Gown in Blush

NBD Yvonne Midi Dress in Peach Nude 


Lovers + Friends Donatella Midi Dress in Canary Blue

I wore this one to my brother’s welcome party in Napa and it was so cute and flattering!

What to wear to a country club wedding

Depending on the dress code, these are some of my favorite looks for a more formal country club wedding

Lovers + Friends Tricia Gown in Pink



What Shoes to Wear to a wedding

Because you’ll want some heels that don’t hurt the second you hit the dance floor!!!!

Solar 100 - Nappa - Gold Absolute - Nappa - Golden Sun

Tamara Mellon Heels

This is NOT sponsored – I just freaking love Tamara Mellon so much!!! If you’re going to invest in a pair of shoes that will take you all the way through wedding season, Tamara Mellon‘s award-winning “Pillow Top” heels are IT. Even Oprah deemed these heels as life savers. They’re seriously the best. Make sure to break them in before your first wedding though, because like all shoes they need a good break in! But once they are – they are worth EVERY penny. I love them so much I might wear their white ones to my own wedding. 


Schutz Ariella Heel in Transparente

 Tony Bianco Fiance Sandal in Skin Capretto Loeffler Randall Penny High Heel Pleated Knot Slide in Gold


Comfy block heels for weddings are perfect if you’re on a lawn!

 Clara Embellished Satin Block Heel Sandals 
RAYE Sybil in Beige

Still wondering where to look online for dresses for a wedding? here are some of the best websites to shop for dresses:

Revolve – I get everything from there, and absolutely love their dress selection. 

The Reformation – really good selection of cute and elegant formal dresses for every occasion. 
Fame and Partners – Fame & Partners is a really hot brand right now for wedding guest and bridesmaid dresses.
BHLDN – another really hot bridesmaid dresses site that has expanded into formal dresses for wedding guests, too. 
Saks Off Fifth – I love peeking at Off Fifth to find good deals on formal dresses. 
Shopbop – high-end but always has amazing dresses. 
Nordstrom – of course always a good place to start when looking for dresses!

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